Testimonials
Working with Heng-zi empowered me to see myself as more than just my parents' provider. She made it possible for me to experience positive emotions other than relief for the first time in almost 10 years. My relationship with everyone in my life (most importantly me) has gotten so much better thanks to the work with Heng-zi.
Adult Client (he/him) Software Engineer
I sought out counseling because I wanted to do things in my life differently but didn't know how. I felt uncomfortable in my body, I didn't understand or like how I felt. I didn't like a lot of the relationships in my life, but found myself in similar dynamics repeatedly.
I chose to work with Heng-Zi because I was interested in the relationship between emotions and the body. I kept working with her because every session has brought me closer to myself. She's helped me to work at my own pace, and made me feel comfortable doing something that can be intimidating to say the least.
Since we've worked together, I'm able to pause in places I used to react automatically, and respond to myself kindly. I've become curious about myself, where I used to be critical. I'm getting more and more comfortable treating myself well.
Adult Client (she/her) Software Developer and Dancer
Prior to working with Heng-zi I was feeling trapped and burned out. I was in a headspace of not knowing why I was feeling and acting a certain way, not wanting to care about anything. Although I have close friends and family, I wasn't able to turn to them and so I sought professional help and found Heng-zi.
I interviewed and talked to a couple of counsellors based on their expertise and background. There were a couple that checked the boxes but something was missing and I couldn't grasp it. When I first talked to Heng-zi, I was at a point where I was growing tired of repeating myself like a broken record. However, something about Heng-zi made me feel comfortable - like meeting an old friend who doesn't judge, knows what I'm talking about when I'm lost for words and feeling safe. She was able to pinpoint certain things that I never thought about.
Although I'm still working on it, my point of view of myself has changed and I’m not walking on eggshells. I've always thought of myself as not being enough, sacrificing my needs and being scared of hurting others’ feelings. Working with Heng-zi, I'm slowly untangling the ball of yarn and just like knitting, it's going to take awhile. In the end, I hope to knit a beautiful cozy blanket to warm myself and create a space where I feel safe, acknowledged and more importantly experience self-love.
Adult Client (she/her) Interior Designer
“When it comes to our children we as parents can be very cautious of who we trust with them. When I found myself not being able to console my daughter when she needed it the most, I realized that I needed help. For me the most important thing was that I find someone that could connect with my daughter, understand her and her needs.
Heng-Zi was able to approach my daughter in a calm and gentle way, which allowed my daughter to establish a very trusting relationship with her, this bond was critical in helping her through her healing process. Heng-Zi has been able to assist in helping my daughter cope with a traumatic experience, as well as providing myself and others involved with my daughter, professional advice on how to address things effectively.
I appreciate her patience and understanding as well as how she allowed my daughter to express herself at her own pace. I have seen very positive results, and my daughter continues to grow stronger and more confident.
I would highly recommend Heng-Zi for counselling a child in need. She has been an incredible help for my family and I couldn't thank her enough for what she has helped my daughter through.
Parent of a child client (she/her)
“ I was initially terrified to start counselling but I knew that I wasn’t managing my mental health on my own. I struggled with depression and anxiety, I have a very low sense of self-worth, I was diagnosed with ADHD in my mid ‘20s with no idea on how that impacted me, and was so scared of failing that I wouldn’t take risks.
The first counsellor I had seen as an adult on my own terms was Heng-Zi and I am so grateful for this. I was looking for a counsellor who was gentler, and I was very attracted to her experience working with children and families. A lot of the work we do together is inward, helping to understand and give grace to feelings I experience, working through shame and family trauma, and especially learning the importance of listening to my body. She has also been able to help me look at things from a macro level; how society, race, gender, etc. can impact what I experience.
Life is never perfectly smooth, but now when dealing with difficult circumstances or feelings I am able to ease some of my stress knowing I have someone with whom I can safely unpack and process things with. Thank you Heng-Zi for giving me the tools and support to be and love myself; that is priceless.
Adult client (she/her) Designer
“I was hesitant to attend counselling because there were so many areas I needed to discuss and no idea where to start. Heng-zi helped me understand areas in my life that I wanted to work on and figure out which ones to tackle first. I received fantastic therapy which helped me feel more balanced and that I was on a better course for my life. The clarity Heng-zi helped me get was extremely settling even after one session! Heng-zi genuinely cares about her clients and always does her best to find time for you. If you want a counselling service that you can trust, no matter how confusing or unclear your situation might seem, this is the one!”
Adult Client (she/her) Professor, Researcher
Benefits of Finding Your “Be”
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Be Flexible.
Learn to see your life in more than one way. Right now you’re stuck, and you need other ways of processing your experience.
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Be Free.
Learn to be free to feel your emotions and sensations in a safe space. Be free to express yourself and your needs.
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Be connected.
Learn to be more connected to yourself and to others. Learn that connection begins within you.
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Be confident.
Learn to trust yourself, your intuition, body and internal senses. Rather than looking outward, know that you have the resources necessary to face challenges.
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Be authentic.
Learn to integrate all the different parts of you to show up as genuinely and authentically yourself.
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Be loved.
Learn to accept and love yourself. This isn’t just some positive self-talk, this is about getting to know parts of you that may have been hidden or neglected for a long time. Allow these parts to become integrated more fully.